There are a lot of adjustments to me made at marriage. Marriage is about leaving the parents and cleaving to one another, relying on one another for everything and not turning to family and friends - they are your significant other in a very real sense. Making this adjustment is not always clear, but it must be done if the marriage is going to last. Other adjustments to be made are taking care of everything together - making a home, handling finances, learning to live with one another, how to get time together and enough personal space, and everything else that comes with being married; these changes do not always come easily, but as long as both partners are open and honest, patient and understanding, the marriage will become stronger and you will love each other more.
Usually within the first few years of marriage there will be the beautiful addition of a child. This is a huge transition that the parents should take together. The husband should be involved in everything. Share feeling and concerns with one another, ideas with how you are going to parent, hopes of what your child will become. Make sure that the husband is at every pre-natal exam, all check-ups and even birthing classes. When the baby moves in the womb, let the husband feel the movement, explain the sensations, let him speak, kiss, love and sing to his unborn child. The husband should be in the delivery room. All of these things, and anything else that you can think of, will help the husband to grow closer to your child, and help prevent marital satisfaction from suffering from the transitions that accompany having a child.
If there has anything that I have learned from this week it is that when you are married, the most important person is your spouse. Period. All of your time, energy, concern and love should go towards your spouse - complete unselfishness. When children are added to the family of course this needs to be split between all of the children, but it is still vital that you spend time together as a couple, keep communicating and building each other up in any way possible.